What is Anger?

Anger is so much a part of our lives today, in varying degrees: frustration, resentment, bitterness, fury, rage, grudges are all different facets of anger.

What does anger do? It hurts the person who is feeling it more than the person who it is directed at. Like a fire that is left uncontrolled, anger consumes the person who is feeling it.

Sometimes, we need to show anger. By all means, let us show anger but let us not feel it. Because the moment we feel the anger, it destroys us. Because like a fire, anger, too, needs fuel. And what is the fuel that we use for our anger? It’s our happiness. Each time we are angry, we are burning up our happiness. Is it really worth it?

If we are offered a plate of sweets and we take a sweet and don’t like it, will we take a second sweet? No. Similarly, why do we keep getting angry despite not wanting to? It simply makes us uncomfortable; so let’s not be angry. If we sit in a chair and don’t find it comfortable, we will avoid the chair. Likewise, let’s avoid being angry because it is not worth it.

Even though anger might be momentary, look at the damage it can cause. For example, when lightning strikes the earth or a tree, even though it is momentary, it causes great damage.

That we need to feel anger shows that we need to understand first a simple point. Not ‘why does somebody make us angry’; rather, ‘why do we get angry’. Not ‘why somebody annoys us’; rather, why do we get annoyed.

So let’s ask ourselves these questions first. When we find the answers—which will point to us and not to others—then we will stop feeling angry.